A wife is one who completes you, without whom the life is incomplete and unbalanced. Marriage is a vital part of a Muslim’s life. In fact marriage is so important in the religion of Islam that it is declared to be one half of one’s faith. As a Muslim one should live in accordance with the Islamic Jurisprudence in the way shown by the greatest of creations and the person who was the greatest impact on mankind in the existence of the universe, The Prophet himself married and also encouraged others to marry. It has been reported that the Holy Prophet Hazrat Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) said, "A person who possesses the means to marry (i.e. he is able to work etc. to support a wife and children) and does not marry then he is not from amongst us (i.e. the believers)."In another narration the Holy Prophet Hazrat Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) has been reported to have said, "Do not delay in three things; 1) The offering of the obligatory prayer. 2) The offering of the funeral prayer when the deceased’s body is present . 3) The marriage of a woman when her couple is found."
One can see from this statement that to become a complete and true believer one must act upon the advice given by the Holy Prophet Hazrat Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him). This means marrying when the partner is found and not delaying it for too long. The Creator of the Universe – Allah - has stated in the Quran, "And wed the single among you."(Surah 24:32)
One can see from the above verse that the Creator of mankind himself has ordered us to marry.
The Qur'an states: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may live in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between you; Verily, in that are signs for people who reflect." (Surah 30:21)
It is imperative to have outstanding relations with your wife as she creates balance in your life. She is as important in your life as to breath, as a Hyde park, as a person whom you can share your ups and lows. Every one in this world has moments of recreation, grief, happiness and sorrows and he wishes that there is some one who can him feedback in as loud as he aspires to. There are so many reasons to have a best relation with your wife.
It has become quite common to cheat on your wife and build extramarital affairs with other girls.It is like a physiological disorder when you cant be loyal to the most desired person in your life. She is your life and you must treat her to feel so. She is the one who takes care of your needs whether these are personal, professional or society needs. She is the opinion leader of you in the society. She is the one who takes care of your children, tells them the difference between right and wrongs, takes care of their emotions, cleans the shit around your home, sets every thing in order, cooks meals for you and still welcomes you with a smile when you come back from home. She is the one who loves you with her heart and fulfills your sexual desires despite being too much tired.
A woman has been created from the human rib so she needs to be treated softly as advised by Holy Prophet Hazrat Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him). Her personal, emotional needs are as important as of her spouse. Islam has given so many rights to women and freed them from the brutal behavior in the past. Here are some of them:
1. The first of her rights is the choice of her husband. A woman is not to be forced to marry a man without her acceptance.
2. The wife is financially independent from the husband.
3. The husband is financially fully responsible for his wife. Poor or rich, her living costs are estimated in proportion to her husband's financial ability. The Qur'an puts it thus:" Let the rich man spend according to his means". (Surah 65:7).
4. The husband is not to stay away from his wife or keep his wife in a state of suspense, whether at home or abroad, for a protracted period of time except with her consent. Allah said: "Turn not away (from your wife) altogether, so as to leave her hanging. If you come to a friendly understanding and practice self-restraint, then Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Merciful" (4:129). Protracted separation (6 months or more in the Shafi`i school) without prior or subsequent arrangement with the wife, whether the husband is away willingly or unwillingly (for example due to war, imprisonment, or illness) is sufficient grounds for her to obtain divorce from the judge.
5. The dower or Mehr. Islam obliges the man to give to the woman as a symbol of his desire, in marrying her and of wanting her. Allah says: "And give to the women (whom you marry) their Mahr (obligatory bridal money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage) with a good heart, but if they, of their own good pleasure remit a part of it to you, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allah has made it lawful)" ( Surah 4:4) The expression "with a good heart" signifies the dower as a gift and is not a price or in return for the pleasure he gets from her, as some people have insisted.
6. Caring for one's wife's sexual fulfillment is an obligation of religion. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, warned against rushing to gratify one's pleasure and forgetting that of one's wife. He also disliked that the husband should quickly withdraw from his wife afterwards, as it is a strain upon the wife. If she asks for intercourse, he should not refuse.
7. The woman has the right to work provided that her work does not make her ignore her main job as a wife and a mother.
8. The laws of financial support for the divorced wife and her children, the custody of the children, financial support during the period of waiting, financial maintenance for nursing the children are all in the divorced woman's favour and this is verified by the following Quranic verses : "When ye divorce women, and they fulfil the term of their (Iddat), either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; but do not take them back to injure them, (or) to take undue advantage ; if any one does that, he wrongs his own soul. Do not treat God's Signs as a jest, but solemnly rehearse God's favours on you, and the fact that He sent down to you The Book and Wisdom for your instruction. And fear God, and know that God is well acquainted with all things. When ye divorce women, and they fulfil the term of their (Iddat), do not prevent them from marrying their (former) husbands, if they mutually agree on equitable terms. This instruction is for all amongst you, who believe in God, and the Last Day. That is (the course making for) most virtue and purity amongst you. And God knows and ye know not." ( Surah II, verses 231-232)
A wife passes through several stages of her life from newly wed girl to a pregnant wife, from mother to a teacher, from young to old. She should be cared properly by her spouse in each phase of her life and her rights should be protected. She should be loved as you love your own body as the Quran has rightly declared both as an outfit for each another. She should be your love, the light of your eyes and the coolness of your body. She must be respected fully and her shortcomings must be ignored. The Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) advised one of his companion not to leave her wife merely on account of some shortcomings as she must be having other traits which he would have liked. This life is so much short and we should not dig deep into deficiencies. The conclusion is well described by Holy Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) in Hadis as " The best of ye are those who are best to their wives."
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